deescalation+techniques

[|http://www.lovingguidance.com] (book not required, lesson inclusive)
 * Submitted by**: Kelley Carpenter
 * Resources:** __Conscious Discipline,__ Becky Bailey

1B Student demonstrates awareness of their personal traits. (I am aware of my traits, what I do well, and what areas I can work on.) 2A Student demonstrates an ability to manage his/her emotions constructively.(I can responsibly manage my emotions.)
 * Standard(s):** 1A Student demonstrates awareness of their emotions. (I am aware of what I am feeling.)

- what they are feeling and how they can communicate that feeling. - who they can go to for support when sad or angry. - ways to help themselves when struggling with their feelings. Hold up STAR card: “//Our first tool is called STAR, say that… (kids echo) STAR stands for the directions that help us use this tool: Stop, Take a breath, And Relax. This tool can help us when we feel our temperature rising or to calm down when we just feel too silly and need to focus.”// Demonstrate--Put your hands up, say STOP. Slowly move your hands up above our shoulders while breathing in through your NOSE with mouth closed. While thinking RELAX, bring hands down slowly and breath out through an open mouth. Hold up second card of balloon— //“Our next tool is called the BALLOON, say that… (kids echo) This tool is helpful when we are upset and have difficulty catching our breath.”// Demonstrate—Interlace your fingers, hold down flat on top of your head, inhale short breaths while lifting up the hands off the head a bit higher with each breath. Do this until the arms are all the way extended up, but fingers are still laced. Next, slowly let air out, as it escapes out of a balloon, by blowing out through an open mouth. //“The third tool we can use to calm us is called the DRAIN. I know this will be helpful when we are very angry or frustrated!”// Demonstrate—Put arms straight out in front of you with clenched fists. Tighten every muscle in your arms, shoulder, face, and hands. With tight body, turn fists as if turning handles of a faucet.…then let suddenly let every tension release as the faucets are turned. //“The last tool we’ll learn today is called the PRETZEL. Most of the time, this works best when we stand. This tool will be wonderful to help us get our emotions in control and feel calm.”// Demonstrate—With arms straight out, turn backs of hands facing, cross arms, palms clasp with fingers laced, turn laced fists up under chin. Put chin down with mouth closed and tongue on roof of your mouth. Cross legs…Take a long, deep breath slowly.
 * Materials:** Picture cards from Loving Guidance Website
 * Time: 30** minutes
 * Goals:** Students will understand…
 * Describe Lesson Steps/Leading Statements:**
 * “//Today we’re going to learn some ways to help us calm down when our feelings become too much. I know it helps me to calm down when I’m very sad or frustrated…but it also helps me to calm down when I’m getting to silly and need to focus.”//
 * On chart paper, brainstorm situations or things that can cause them to feel out of control of their emotions.
 * //“I want to teach you some tools to help us GET control when we feel like our feelings are out of control. Remember, tools are things that help us do our jobs. Whether it be crayons and pencils to illustrate or water, soap and paper towel to wash our hands…tools help us do our job.”//

Ongoing, observe children when they begin to escalate and how they are able to implement the strategies taught.
 * Assessment(s):**